It is my pleasure to share a guest post by author Ann Vanino
Finding Your Unique Voice
by Ann Vanino
by Ann Vanino
Each of us has a unique voice in the world. There is much in our society that tries to dissuade us from finding and speaking our unique voice. Conformity is put forward as the only way to be safe in our world. However, staying “safe” denies the opportunity to take the hero’s journey and become the hero of our own life. To be a hero, we have to go off the everyday path and find our own way.
My work as a career and new directions coach is about creating a space of motivation, support and encouragement for people to move forward in their lives. There is no “one size fits all”. Each person is unique. Real and lasting transformation comes from within. So mentoring, in the sense of my knowing what is best for someone or telling someone what they should do, does not enter into my coaching.
There are many things to focus on when someone wants to find their own voice. One of the big factors is getting comfortable with the unknown. Another is finding the source of their creativity. In a coaching relationship, I have a range of tools that can help a person find their unique voice. One tool is asking powerful questions. These questions are designed to elicit answers that will result in major insights for the person. For example, if someone feels there is no way out of their current limiting circumstances, I may ask them to suspend logic and create a scenario that will get them where they want to be. This allows them to get out of their “no way out” belief.
Another tool is something we call in coaching “third level listening”. I listen for what is not being said by a person. When I listen at this level, I use my intuition much more then I use my mind. I observe a person’s energy, emotions, body language and interaction with me to sense if something is going on beneath the surface. If there is, it can be very powerful to help the person “surface” those feelings, as they may be having a significant, if unknown, effect on their actions and perceptions.
In my coaching, it is very important to create a “safe” space within which a person can grow without fear or judgment of what is right or wrong. As people pursue finding their unique voice, fears arise. This is natural. They have to step out of their comfort zone and, as their coach I want it to be okay that they do.
My hope as a coach is that each of us find our unique voice. Then, we can rise together as a powerful chorus encouraging others to do the same and making the world a better place!
by Ann Vanino
GENRE: Personal Growth
We are living in a time of transformation. Old ways are fading. New ways are emerging. There is an increasing focus within. Many of us are feeling a desire to create a new direction for our lives.
Chrysalis: Personal TransformationFrom The Inside Out uses nature’s process of Chrysalis- a caterpillar transforming to a butterfly – as a guide for our own personal transformation. Each stage of Chrysalis provides a jumping-off point, upon which to reflect about our own experiences as we each transform.
Growth and Struggle
Starting With Yourself
In your own Chrysalis, you start from where you are, developed and conditioned by the outside world. Who would think a caterpillar’s tissues would create a butterfly? It is a beginning for you, different from anything that has gone before.
Great Destruction Brings Rebirth
There are other examples in nature of great destruction bringing rebirth—volcanoes pushing rich new soil to the surface, small earthquakes releasing pressure on a fault line and weathering and erosion creating new land forms.
In your Chrysalis, effort is well spent in balancing the destructive and creative forces occurring in your life. It is a time of some chaos. Your point of gravity is shaken, and stability is not yet regained. Enduring your Chrysalis involves maintaining balance between creation and destruction through discipline and developing habits that support you through this time. As parts of your life crumble, you may need more nurturing. As the new enters your life, you may need to give yourself some time to acclimate.
As you endure creation and destruction or face uncertainty in your life, know that rebirth awaits you.
Wasn’t the caterpillar beautiful enough?
Yes, it was.
Its new opportunity, as a butterfly,
Lies in its wings—to fly.
Think of a time in your life when you were scared, but you kept going.
What gave you the strength and courage to proceed? (You can use that again.)
What would have happened if you did not proceed?
How would your life be now?
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Other Books By Ann Vanino:
Power Stories: Mythical Tales Of Personal Power At Work
Coaching Corner Volume 1
Leadership On Trial: Lessons from The Apprentice
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