It is my pleasure to share a guest post by author Ann Vanino
Finding Your Unique
Voice
by Ann Vanino
by Ann Vanino
Each of us has a unique voice in the world. There is much in
our society that tries to dissuade us from finding and speaking our unique
voice. Conformity is put forward as the only way to be safe in our world. However, staying “safe” denies the
opportunity to take the hero’s journey and become the hero of our own life. To
be a hero, we have to go off the everyday path and find our own way.
My work as a career and new directions coach is about
creating a space of motivation, support and encouragement for people to move
forward in their lives. There is no “one size fits all”. Each person is unique.
Real and lasting transformation comes from within. So mentoring, in the sense of my knowing what
is best for someone or telling someone what they should do, does not enter into
my coaching.
There are many things to focus on when someone wants to find
their own voice. One of the big factors is getting comfortable with the
unknown. Another is finding the source of their creativity. In a coaching
relationship, I have a range of tools that can help a person find their unique
voice. One tool is asking powerful questions. These questions are designed to
elicit answers that will result in major insights for the person. For example,
if someone feels there is no way out of their current limiting circumstances, I
may ask them to suspend logic and create a scenario that will get them where
they want to be. This allows them to get out of their “no way out” belief.
Another tool is something we call in coaching “third level
listening”. I listen for what is not
being said by a person. When I listen at this level, I use my intuition much
more then I use my mind. I observe a person’s energy, emotions, body language
and interaction with me to sense if something is going on beneath the surface.
If there is, it can be very powerful to help the person “surface” those
feelings, as they may be having a significant, if unknown, effect on their
actions and perceptions.
In my coaching, it is very important to create a “safe”
space within which a person can grow without fear or judgment of what is right
or wrong. As people pursue finding their unique voice, fears arise. This is
natural. They have to step out of their comfort zone and, as their coach I want
it to be okay that they do.
My hope as a coach is that each of us find our unique voice.
Then, we can rise together as a powerful chorus encouraging others to do the
same and making the world a better place!
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by Ann Vanino
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GENRE: Personal Growth
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BLURB:
We are
living in a time of transformation. Old ways are fading. New ways are emerging.
There is an increasing focus within. Many of us are feeling a desire to create
a new direction for our lives.
Chrysalis: Personal TransformationFrom The Inside Out uses nature’s process of Chrysalis- a caterpillar
transforming to a butterfly – as a guide for our own personal transformation.
Each stage of Chrysalis provides a jumping-off point, upon which to reflect
about our own experiences as we each transform.
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EXCERPT
Chapter
Three
Growth
and Struggle
Starting
With Yourself
In
your own Chrysalis, you start from where you are, developed and conditioned by
the outside world. Who would think a caterpillar’s tissues would create a
butterfly? It is a beginning for you,
different from anything that has gone before.
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Great
Destruction Brings Rebirth
There
are other examples in nature of great destruction bringing rebirth—volcanoes
pushing rich new soil to the surface, small earthquakes releasing pressure on a
fault line and weathering and erosion creating new land forms.
In
your Chrysalis, effort is well spent in balancing the destructive and creative
forces occurring in your life. It is a time of some chaos. Your point of
gravity is shaken, and stability is not yet regained. Enduring your Chrysalis
involves maintaining balance between creation and destruction through
discipline and developing habits that support you through this time. As parts
of your life crumble, you may need more nurturing. As the new enters your life,
you may need to give yourself some time to acclimate.
As
you endure creation and destruction or face uncertainty in your life, know that
rebirth awaits you.
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Why
Change?
Wasn’t
the caterpillar beautiful enough?
Yes,
it was.
Its
new opportunity, as a butterfly,
Lies
in its wings—to fly.
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Try
this:
Think
of a time in your life when you were scared, but you kept going.
What
gave you the strength and courage to proceed? (You can use that again.)
What
would have happened if you did not proceed?
How
would your life be now?
The book will be free during the dates of the tour.
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AUTHOR Bio and Links:
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Other Books By Ann Vanino:
Power Stories: Mythical Tales Of Personal Power At Work
Coaching Corner Volume 1
Leadership On Trial: Lessons from The Apprentice
Kaleidoscope
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ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the excerpt with us. I got the book on Amazon! I haven't started reading it yet but I do look forward to it. I wish you continued good luck on the book tour. :)
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ReplyDeleteGreat post, I enjoyed reading the excerpt! Thanks for sharing :)
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